Season Two, Four Seasons Project, 2019.
This summer I relocated to Southern California after 17 years of living in the San Francisco Bay Area. Although this is not a super significant distance geographically, this was a big emotional shift for me in terms of closing out a chapter of my life and beginning a new one. I'd had many friends move away from the Bay Area in the past few years so I knew that in this digital age, although the relationships certainly change, technology allows for continued connection. But it's difficult to connect from afar with the physical spaces that contain our memories. So, I chose to spend time during my final months in the Bay Area making pilgrimages to, and taking photos of, significant places from my 17 years there.
I visited and documented the spaces that held the energy of my most meaningful memories, places that contained a deep energetic imprint of my presence and vice versa -- where I walked in and out of doors, or up and down stairs, or ate, or prayed, or danced, or made love, or dreamt, or worked, or learned, or healed, or laughed, or created over and over again, sometimes for years and years on end. This became an intentional way for me to honor this chapter of my life.
Honoring and marking the passage of time and the endings and beginnings of life chapters has become more important to me as I've gotten older and especially as a woman who has not married and who has consciously chosen not to birth children -- two significant milestones that often mark life stages for us humans. For all of us, and specifically for those of us without these particular milestones and accompanying journeys, I think it is important to intentionally track, record, and celebrate our transitions.
It was an interesting practice to sit down and write a list of the places I wanted to visit - to notice which ones actually made it onto the list and which didn't due to their insignificance or due to memories that felt too negative to revisit. This also became a values clarification exercise for me - making me glaringly aware of what I have consciously or unconsciously valued most and how I spent my time and energy throughout these years of my life. Themes emerged from the list -- it became a list of what nourished me... physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. I invite you to view the images and read my stories to get a glimpse into this chapter of my life and as you do, I encourage you to think about what a similar project would look like for you.
17th Street, Oakland
This beautiful 1920s building is in downtown Oakland, one block away from Lake Merritt. I lived in one of the large studio apartments hidden behind the trees on the left-hand side for 11 years of my life. The kitchen and bathroom displayed original art deco tilework and the space had lovely high ceilings and tall windows that framed these seasonally-changing trees, keeping me magically in-tune with the cycles of nature. Every morning when I awoke, I would feel gleefully thankful for the beauty and peacefulness of the space - often with the thought that I was the luckiest person in the world to live in this apartment. While it was simply a studio, it was a special place and its beauty was never lost on me or taken for granted.
Latham Square Building, 16th Street & Telegraph Avenue, Oakland
One of the first things I did when I moved to the Bay Area was train and serve as a volunteer counselor for a nonjudgmental, after-abortion talkline called Exhale. This organization was not politically or religiously affiliated but rather, described its approach as "pro-voice" and client-centered. On the talkline, we learned to put aside our own beliefs and opinions to meet callers exactly where they were at when they called us wanting to talk about their experiences with abortion. This organization was - and still is - doing ground-breaking, cutting-edge work -- carving out a space for real, complex human experiences, stories, and support in the midst of a super-charged, over-simplified, and divided political climate. Although it's no longer in this building, the Exhale office was housed here for the many years (2002 - 2008) during which I was involved as a counselor, community educator, board member, and finally, staff member. I met and worked alongside all kinds of amazing, brilliant, compassionate, and empathic women in this office and am forever grateful for the counseling skills, lifelong friendships, and organizational and professional development experiences I had the honor of cultivating here.
Oakland Center for Spiritual Living, Clarewood Drive, Oakland
For many years, I attended weekly services at the Oakland Center for Spiritual Living, a beautiful sanctuary nestled in the Oakland Hills. During this time, Rev. Joan Steadman was the minister, she was a humble, honest, and uber-inspiring leader who had trained under Rev. Michael Beckwith and helped him open the Agape Center in Los Angeles. Oakland CSL is a metaphysical, non-denominational spiritual center and as a Jewish woman, I felt very welcomed and accepted here. It was guaranteed that if I went to services, I would walk out feeling uplifted and with fascinating, philosophical food for thought to chew on and digest that week. I was introduced to this place via synchronicity - overhearing one of my healers on the phone talking about it before a session... it turned out she was a practitioner here and during my first service, I realized that I already knew several members of this spiritual community from other communities of which I was a part.
Oakland Acupuncture Project, Laurel Avenue, Oakland
I am a big proponent of non-western medicine and "alternative" healing modalities. My main healthcare providers over the past decade were the many talented "acu-punks" (practitioners) at Oakland Acupuncture Project. OAP is comprised of two clinics that offer community acupuncture, a movement aimed at creating access to Chinese Medicine by removing the barrier of cost from healing. Community acupuncture is affordable (usually $15-$50/session) acupuncture offered in a group setting - enabling folks to access this healing modality together in community and with greater frequency than what otherwise might be cost-prohibitive. They helped me heal through ailments from allergies to menstrual cramps and to consistently maintain my well-being. OAP is a member of an international cooperative called People's Organization of Community Acupuncture (POCA). I am a supporting member of POCA as well. If you're interested in this movement and your own well-being, you can become a member and/or search for community acupuncture clinics near you on their website.
Mountain View Cemetery, Piedmont Avenue, Oakland
My favorite place to walk, sit, or contemplate in Oakland is Mountain View Cemetery. Mountain View is a stunning 226 acres of green rolling hills and awe-inspiring views at the end of Piedmont Avenue. I've spent truly countless hours indulging in its beauty, listening to podcasts, sitting in sweet silence, writing in journals, talking with friends, contemplating the lives of those buried here, and reaching my 10,000 steps here:)
This is a photo of the mausoleum under the moon. The beautiful and aptly-placed carving above the doors is of the three Fates, the Greek goddesses or weavers of Destiny: Clotho ("the spinner" of the thread of life), Lachesis ("the allotter" who measures the thread and determines Destiny), and Atropos ("the unturnable" who cuts the thread and determines death). In our Western society, which often shies away from looking at or discussing our inevitable fate of death, it can be a useful practice to intentionally engage with it. When we encounter the reality of death on a more regular basis, we can more readily make peace with it and also be reminded of the shortness and significance of life, continually begging Mary Oliver's question, "tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
Anytime Fitness, Bay Farm Island, Alameda
This hole-in-the-wall gym in Alameda was my saving grace throughout the years. Located fairly close to where I lived in Oakland, it's a cute and quiet gym that's open 24/7 and located next to a grocery store that's open until midnight. As a creative, I am a fairly extreme night owl and was fortunate to find jobs that fit my natural sleep and energy rhythms. For several years I worked at a mental healthcare clinic for youth in the Presidio in San Francisco, usually ending my work day around 9 or 9:30pm. Anytime Fitness gave me a safe place to go exercise after my commute back home to the East Bay with time to spare to do my grocery shopping before midnight without any crowds or lines (win-win:). This gym was also a place of deep healing for me during times of stress or challenges - it's truly amazing what endorphins can do for our state-of-mind. Despite exercise often being the last thing we want to do when we're down or stressed, it's always been incredibly well worth the effort for me.
New College of California, Valencia Street, San Francisco
I spent a year in a Clinical Psychology graduate program and later switched to and graduated from a master's program in Women's Spirituality here at New College of California. This was a small liberal arts school founded in 1971 whose mission was, "Education for a Just, Sacred, and Sustainable World." This building on Valencia Street in San Francisco's Mission District (which now houses retail shops) was my educational home for three years. I fell in love with the people who were drawn to teach and learn in an institution that valued a just, sacred, and sustainable world.
I learned an innumerable amount here including the clinical practice of community mental health, how to set and facilitate sacred space, the joy of sitting in circle, the power of heuristic research and Organic Inquiry (a methodology of research as a sacred endeavor), the wisdom and often-suppressed history of the Divine Feminine, the sacredness of the menstrual cycle and its connection with the moon, the creation of art as a spiritual practice, the importance of telling our stories, and so much more.
I had the opportunity to travel with this program to India to study South Indian Arts and Culture. My thesis was on healing the self and accessing the divine through creative expression and I had the chance to create an art exhibit to go along with my written thesis. I chose to create four large altars of my artwork and found/recycled materials for a show I titled, Altared: A Journey to Wholeness - that was exhibited here in the community exhibition space. I was particularly excited when I had the opportunity to hear the phenomenal author, Sandra Cisneros, read from her work in this space with my altars as the backdrop :) I left this school with lifelong mentors and friends and a newfound connection to my own spirituality, creativity, and divine essence.
Taqueria Cancun, Mission Street, San Francisco
There were many restaurants to choose from for this list, but this hole-in-the-wall taqueria was one of my trusty, go-to staples for the entirety of my time in the Bay Area. It was *the* late-night spot for veggie burritos when I lived in SF and in Oakland. I first started coming here in my early twenties after nights out dancing with my first roommates in San Francisco. Later, I would get burritos here with my fellow outreach worker after doing street outreach through the Women's Community Clinic (passing out hygiene and safer sex and drug supplies to unhoused and marginally-housed women in the Mission District). I would then come here after weekend-long graduate school classes in the Mission and years later, with my partner who lived a block away from here for five years of our relationship. It was reliably welcoming with its colorful papel picados, yummy green hot sauce, and long, community tables.
Prospect Avenue, San Francisco
Shattuck Avenue, Berkeley & Catalina Avenue, Albany
Valencia Street, San Francisco
These are the offices of the amazing therapists I had the chance to work with in the Bay Area. My first therapy experience in San Francisco was being in a Radical Therapy problem-solving group run out of a home office space in Bernal Heights. This was an amazing group of women and an incredible approach - you can read more about it here.
The second and third shots are the former office spaces (first one was above the North Berkeley Post Office and the second was a space rented in a church off of Solano Avenue) of the therapist I worked with for over a decade who expertly held space for me and guided me through intense growing pains and evolution. She introduced me to: the brilliant practice of Nonviolent Communication and EMDR (Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) among many other healing modalities and she continually and gracefully pointed me back to my own inner wisdom and intuition.
The fourth image is the office of a wonderful Gestalt and Jungian-based couple's therapist who I saw with one of my partners. This office is on Valencia Street in San Francisco, above the Scarlet Sage, a lovely spiritual/herb shop that was hard not to wander into after therapy sessions. Among many other things, she taught us Dan Siegel's concept of the Window of Tolerance, and Stan Tatkin's concept of the couple bubble. She lovingly pulled tarot cards for our final session together as a couple.
Lake Merritt, Oakland
Having lived a block away from this beautiful gem of Oakland for 11 years (and near it for several more,) I don't think I could calculate how many times I have walked the 3.4 miles around its perimeter or simply sat outside on its shore. An evening walk under its strands of glowing white lights always felt a bit magical. When I first moved to Oakland, I would dorkily wear a fanny pack to walk around the lake, knowing that I would hardly run into any people there and certainly no one I knew... in recent years, it has become a true community hub (and thankfully, fanny packs came back into style so it all worked out ;) The path around - and the feeling of being near - this small body of water is etched on my insides... it's a little piece of home to me and I suspect this will remain the case for the rest of my days.
I took at least a dozen more photos than what I've included here - photos of other homes I lived in or shared with partners in San Francisco and Oakland, vegan restaurants I frequented such as Herbivore in SF and Berkeley, workplaces throughout the Bay Area, and other walking and hiking spots such as the Alameda shoreline, but the places featured here rose to the top as a priority for me to share. And in this process, I noticed what nourished me most throughout these years: beauty and nature; healing and growth; connection with loved ones; creative expression; being in service to others; continuous education and learning, and spiritual engagement. I'm grateful for the opportunity to have lived some of my most formative and meaningful years in these beautiful spaces and to close out this chapter of my life by reflecting, honoring, and appreciating them. I invite you to contemplate and create your own catalogue of memories - in whatever creative format works best for you - when you experience your next major life transition.